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Song of Solomon 2:16
My lover is mine, and I am his.

Proverbs 30:18-19
There are three things that amaze me—
no, four things that I don’t understand:
how an eagle glides through the sky,
how a snake slithers on a rock,
how a ship navigates the ocean,
how a man loves a woman

There’s someone I befriended on Facebook who has encouraged me to continue writing online about life (the good, the bad, the pretty, the ugly, etc). She’s been nothing but supportive of me in the natural and the spiritual realm. God Bless her. Okay, so here’s the mini deal: I am generally known for being the one who always has a joke and a drawn out explanation for something. Here’s some real talk for you….So I pulled this blog back up I wrote a year ago. I also added to it recently. Enjoy because this same topic popped up in conversation this weekend.

November 2008

Awww! I have been getting an overwhelming amount of love on MySpace and I see a lot of ya’ll miss my opinions and advice on today’s issues. So I decided I am bringing my blogs back.
The most brought up issue I keep hearing about is love. A lot of you are asking what love is. When will you find love and the list goes on. Someone asked me this question over the weekend: “How well do you understand love?” I paused for a bit, realizing that love is a strong word. I gathered my thoughts and expressed them as followed:
I hope this blog ( and my future blogs) opens eyes and hearts to fulfill a better life. Love is priceless, but it’s a hardship. Love is free, but if you’re not careful it can bind you up.
I recently found that people are throwing the “L” word around like demos for the music industry. For example, I’ll share some of my experiences with you all. How is it possible I’ve had more than one person tell me they love me for the year 2008 and we were not even halfway through the year? Or how about in 2006, three claimed to have loved me and I couldn’t spit those words back out to them. How long have I’ve known them? Not long enough if I am publicly sharing this experience. Or even in 2009, on the first date I am asked to be his girlfriend? I am not necessarily denying the feelings these young men may have, but it shows you the world is moving too fast and many don’t know what they are truly saying. I’ve talked to many friends, associates, strangers and have seen the broken hearts and even destroyed self-esteem caused by their so called “lovers” who did not mean to say “I love you” to them. It made me wonder and it was on my mind to discuss this issue. I am not a love expert, but I’ve been blessed with wisdom beyond my years and I want to share that wisdom with you all!
My advice to all is, if you love someone …make sure it is confirmed within you and sincerely SHOW THEM.
Love is not just a STATEMENT, it is AN ACTION. Now, take a look at the definition for the word statement. A Statement is a communication or declaration in speech or writing, setting forth facts, particulars, etc. Take a look at the definition listed for action. An Action is something done or performed; act; deed. Apparently they cannot logically be compared to one another and must CONSECUTIVELY occur one after the other. In other words
LADIES AND GENTLEMEN: If you love someone who you want to commit to….SHOW THEM and be faithful to that person and them only! Your love cannot be sincere ( as much you would think it to be) if you find yourself dipping and dodging in other people’s “love spots.” This means you do not love that person entirely. Men would argue the case and declare they have love for their girlfriends and not love the other woman they’ve chosen to cheat with. From my understanding, I believe that is true. However it is not justified as being correct. That is not an excuse to violate a commitment.
Don’t fall in love with someone’s looks, it’s just a shell and will later on fade away.
Get on track and know how to decipher between true love and “puppy love.”
Puppy love is a deceptive joy ride. It’s all in the mind and hormones, and it hits at ANY age.
True love is from the heart and beyond the subliminal. Love should make you feel for a loss of words. True love is confirmed through God and no other force. If He didn’t bless it, it ain’t no truth in it.

If you have to question someone’s love for you, it’s just “puppy love.”

No, don’t bash everyone who comes at you with the “L” word, but please be advised many will talk the talk ( As I can personally testify) but very few can walk that walk!!

So what makes me happy and optimistic about love in this age? I believe God will connect you to the “chosen one,” if you’re careful not to share your love with counterfeit lovers that cross your paths. Discern and recognize. Pray for it. It’s already in you.

“EyesZ are the windows to the soul!”  ChesZerae is Miss Harlem Brown EyesZ